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In Reply to: So I ask the MIL... posted by Valveboy on February 20, 2007 at 13:53:50:
I appreciate the kind words. Now they say the ankle is broken is three places but we'll have to wait a week before the swelling goes down before they decide on surgery or just a cast. But now we're looking at a prolonged stay in a nursing home for the recovery. Something that is absolutely freaking my wife out. She's the only child. We knew this day would eventually come, but man, is it ever one big reality sandwich!
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I do hope that your MIL is mentally aware and that this is only a temporary stay. That should help matters tremendously.I 'm an only child also. We went trough this with my Mom starting in 2001 and, until she passed in late 2005, we didn't have a moment's peace. The fact that she suffered from Osteoporosis and Alzheimers dodn't help matters either.
which of course means she has the whit and toungue to go with it! We are lucky in that she really does run circles around most in their 80's I've ever seen. The doc told her the other day he expects her to live well into her 90's. They got her to the nursing home the doc recommended today and within an hour she was on her cell phone with phone book in hand trying to arrange home health help so she could get the hell out of that one-horse joint and back home where she doesn't have to share a crackerbox room with someone's great grandma and where she can pour her own vodka... her words.
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When they (we?) get to that age, it's all in the head. As long as they are cognizant of their limitations, live within those limits, and asks for help when needed, it all works out.My Mom never realized/remembered hers, thanks to the Alzheimer's and Osteoporosis, was constantly breaking hips, arms and whatnot and not knowing why.
...sounds like you've got a pretty together MIL and she has a good support group there. It'll all work out.
I hope she has insurance that will help cover the cost involved with nursing home care. You also might want to checkout hospice and see if they can help.We didn't make it very far in the process with my 84 year old mom. We were looking at hospice, home health care, nursing homes etc. But she mercifully passed away last Friday morning before we had to make these decisions. We had her service last night and she would have approved.
I pray that you and yours will be well during this difficult time.
My sincerest condolences on your loss.(Somehow the words never feel like they're enough when you're on this side of these things, and I wish I could say more).
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Now just trying to get back into daily living. It may take a while.
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