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The Term WAF Sickens me....

Posted by thetubeguy1954 (A) on April 9, 2011 at 21:33:49

In Reply to: My next speakers will be larger ... posted by three_sox on April 9, 2011 at 19:44:25:

Hello All!

I have to admit I'm always taken quite aback when men say stuff like this on an audio forum! This sounds more like something a boy would say who's living at the home of their girlfriend, than a man who's sharing a life and home with a loving woman he calls his their wife. IMHO any man ---{who isn't foolishly and recklessly spending joint finances that are already ear-marked for the mortgage or other such bills}--- but rather is only spending his discretionary income, and yet still has to worry about WAF when purchasing speakers or any other audio component is either a spineless geek or is married to a selfish woman who doesn't really love him!

Below is a picture of my dedicated audio room taken about 2 years ago. There's a lot more gear lying about now. Five and a half years ago when my wife and I purchased our home which has a master bedroom, 2 other bedrooms, a living room, dining room, kitchen and a family aka my dedicated audio room. I told her, I didn't ask her, that I wanted one room to be mine to setup my audio system and decorate as I see fit ---{the only stipulation was it wouldn't be decorated hideously, such as painting the walls and ceilings all black}--- and in turn she would be free to do as she pleased with the rest of the house

I hate to say this to any man, but the reality is if you need to obtain "permission" from your wife or GF to purchase an audio component with your discretionary income. Then your wife or GF is acting like a very ungrateful, selfish woman. I couldn't imagine a loving woman or wife who would treat me like I'm living in her house ---{as opposed to our house}--- and begrudges me setting up and enjoying one of my greatest loves in life, i.e., quality musical reproduction on an audio sytem of my choice. Any woman who would act in such a manner truly needs to learn to be a lot more generous of spirit and grateful for what God has blessed her with. Perhaps you men should remind your GF or wives she's married to a man/husband that's loves her very much and isn't out:

1)watching/playing sports with the guys.
2)drinking and/or doing drugs out in the bars with the guys.
3)riding/building motorcycles with the guys.
4)building/racing cars with the guys.
5)camping, hunting and/or fishing with the guys .
6)chasing other women with the guys.

Ask her how she'd feel if the tables were turned and as of today you started demanding your input in how the appearance of all the rooms in the house should look! Then as you gently remind her that's not what you'd want anyway, tell her... You want her to be happy and enjoy her home, but doesn't she also want you to be happy and enjoy your home? All you're asking is to be able to incorporate the hobby you love so dearly into just ONE of the many rooms of your home! Explain to her how your hobby is one that allows you to stay home near her while you enjoy it. Plus on some nights it also allows you to share it with her when the work is all done and it's time for the two of you to relax together at night!

Now should you get your wife to start to understand that she really should be more grateful I have some suggestions to make the new transition go smoothly ---{just one word of caution do NOT say or do this if you're not 100% completely sincere ----trust me she'll know}--- one Saturday or Sunday early in the day ---{woman are subtle, so you'll need to be too}--- look at her and tell her you'd really like to show her how you can share the hobby you love, with the woman you love. Explain that it would mean a lot to you if she'd come sit with you tonight over some wine, cheese & crackers ---{after the kids are down if you have any}---and listen to some nice relaxing music together. Tell her you'd really like to listen to some of the music she finds romantic, so would she bring a couple of her favorite romantic recordings for you two to listen to?.That simple statement has worked for me 99% of the time for me with virtually every woman I dated and it works just as well with my wife to this day!

Now when she comes to sit down let her sit in the sweet spot ---{you might want to be real romantic and tell her anywhere she sits is the "sweet spot"}--- and explain what it is and why you want her to sit there. Then hold her hand and listen to the music together! Done correctly you may actually have a difficult time listening to music after awhile ---{you actually pushed the romance button a lot earlier in the day with the eye contact and subtle touches}--- best part is next time she's hears your system playing she'll probably end up fondly reminiscing about that very special romantic evening you two had together. Who knows she might even decide to come sit with you again some night while you're listening music all alone and don't be too surprised is she's wearing her favorite lingerie and carrying a bottle of wine with some cheese & crackers. Heck "if" you play your cards correctly she might even come to believe your audio system is the best new aphrodisiac she's ever discovered..... and "if" she does, you make darn sure she believes she discovered it too!

Tom Scata (thetubeguy1954)
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Thetubeguy1954 (Tom)

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Edits: 04/10/11

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