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John...

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I'm not sure if you're going to stop by and read the responses to your final post... it seems that you're pretty fed up with the goings on here, so I doubt it. However, I feel the need to respond on this board, as some of your choices in life have been ridiculed.

none of this has very much to do with audio equipment, but with something else I think we have in common.

I believe finding oneself via spirituality can be acomplished in many ways, but I think there is an underlying level of "sameness" that we all reach. A common ground if you will. I recently started on my own path, and find that unlearning a lot of what I thought to be true was the hardest thing, and relearning ways to approach life has been very easy. You see, I think the world we live in is made up of several layers, sort of like transparencies laid on top of each other. I've spent a lot of my life stuck in one of those layers, walking around without a point, looking for someone or something to guide me to what I was looking for: completeness, hapiness, love, satisfaction, whatever. Having people move in and out of my life and viewing them as transactions - I'd meet someone I knew I could learn from, and hopefully I had something to share as well. When it was time for one of us to leave, I didn't fight it at all, and I wouldn't get so attached that saying goodbye would be a hard process. I used to think of it as a desire not to turn an important person to a waste of time, but now I realize it was completely self protection.

I have a theory I've carried around with me for years, and I'll share it with you... I think people are like boxes. Picture it - six sides: four walls, a top and a bottom. What happens is, we share who we are only in parts, if we show someone one side, there's still five sides hidden. If someone comes in at the junction of two walls, they'd see two sides. At best someone can see a corner, and three sides. But always, always, there's something hidden. I took a lot of comfort in it, that I could be whatever the person in front of me wanted me to be, and that I would never expose fully who I was, and they wouldn't either. A transaction.

At the same time, I had a desire to meet someone I could get into the box, because then they could see all of me. I'd meet people, have relationships with some of them, and love their company. But I'd throw theories by them, seeing if they were worthy of getting inside. It never happened...

I know now, and I won't get into what I had to learn to get here, that it's not about getting someone in the box, it's about me getting out of it. The I could just be, and I wouldn't be constricted by walls. It's the realization of my life, and everything I've learned since then grown out of it. And I think because of it, I've found love.

Back to the transparency thing - I feel like I've gotten the chance to step back and see the whole picture. Have you ever played chess and lost because you get so focussed on one strategy that you lose sight of the whole board? I have. I don't anymore.

We live in a life where things will always intersect with one another, things overlap in many ways. There is a lot of fucked up things that happen, and there are ways to react to them. One is to condemn, another is to ignore, and another is to do something about it. From your recent posts, it seems like you've chosen the latter, I commend you on that. However (there's always a however isn't there), you honestly have no right to condemn anyone's choices in life. You have lived yours the best you can, you need to let others live their's the way they choose. Let go.

I suspect that you're wiser than I am. I know you've experienced worlds that I have yet to see. Thank you for doing so much to make the world a better place, but please don't lose sight of acceptance. The amount of money one person spends to find personal fulfillment is a means to find their peace. There is, and never will be, anything wrong with that.

One of my new credos in life: See the big picture. The rest is just details.

How does this relate to what's happened here over the past day? Ask yourself what you could possibly accomplish by attacking Suzy for spending the amount of money she has. If your post helped your cause at all.

I believe, sincerly, that focussing on money is not they way to improve our world. It's through awareness. You've been to India, probably seen a sweatshop, killing, and God knows what else. I suspect that, among other things, lead you to finding a life of moderation. I doubt any sort of attack would have reached the same end.

I hope you continue emailing me, about stereo equipment as you have been or about the world as you see it. Wither way, I wish you luck on your journey.

carlo


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