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I'll take rituals over requirements anytime, and every time.

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Posted on November 7, 2009 at 13:57:29
Bruce Kendall
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Over the years I have developed rituals that I follow for many tasks. My wife would probably call them anal quirks rather than rituals and, for all practical purposes, the line between the two is awfully fine anyway, so call them what you will. For example, if I get up on a Saturday morning and decide that tri-tip, potatoes, vegetables and a salad is what we are having for dinner, it can (and generally does!) take me the better part of the day to create that meal. And it isn't just cooking. I have rituals that I perform for fishing, stargazing, reorganizing my equipment rack and probably 150 other things. Why? Because following those rituals goes a long way towards getting the end results I am looking for. And if, by chance, my little rituals don't really contribute that much, I think they do and that makes it real enough for me.

Continuing with the cooking train of thought for a moment, I call some of the things I do rituals because I don't have to follow them. Sometimes conditions dictate that rituals be cast to the wind, as was the case this morning. After sitting through two episodes of Anthony Bourdain with nothing more than coffee in my stomach, I suddenly found myself in need of an emergency feeding. I hit the kitchen, and in about ten minutes -- maybe less -- I had a tasty, well-balanced meal in a bowl that tasted fantastic. That's my story and I am sticking to it, but I will admit that cardboard would have probably tasted good under those particular conditions.

When CDs first came out, I was absolutely elated. The convenience factor alone was thrilling. In a matter of seconds I could have a CD in the player programmed so I could hear the tracks I wanted to listen to, and I'd be sitting down and enjoying the music. After 31 years of having to pull an album out of the sleeve, handling it like was a live explosive device, carefully cleaning the album and so forth, playing a CD was nothing short of fantastic. And the process of how you handled and cleaned the album was not a ritual, at least not to me. It was an absolute necessity if you really wanted to listen to some music under optimal conditions. And what choices did you have? Sure, you could go with reel-to-reel playback, but I always found vinyl to be the better and most convenient of the two.

It is true that early CD releases didn't sound all that great, but the quality of digital playback has improved in increments of quantum leaps over the years, and we are now at the point where some remastered digital versions of some old vinyl favorites are not only better, they are stupid better. (That unnamed example is unusual, I know. But you can't deny that digital has improved.) But over time, I started to experience a pesky little problem when listening to CDs, and after awhile that pesky little problem matured into a big pain in the butt.

The problem? It seemed that if I pulled out a couple of CDs for a listening session, I was essentially putting on a billboard saying "I'll be sitting in the living room for at least an hour, so now is the time for idle chat, settling minor disputes and resolving problems". In other words, both the quality and the quantity of my listening time suffered big time.

Then, about a year ago, Mr. Peshkin sent me a big box containing a turntable that he had found and carefully restored. (I promptly returned the favor by destroying the stylus on the Audio Note cartridge he loaned me at the same time, but that wound is still too fresh and I don't want to talk about it.) I had been thinking about putting a table back in my rack for awhile, but had held off for a number of reasons. First, I was a little fearful that the first thing I'd do if I had a turntable would be to run out and buy a whole s***load of 180 and 200g LPs. I know me. I think that when my parents were teaching me about restraint, moderation and being practical -- assuming they did try to do so -- I was busy listening to "the Beatles in my head". Second, I wondered what the heck I would play on the turntable. Most of the vinyl I had at that time consisted of albums I considered to be collectibles, there to sit on a shelf, but not to play.

I managed to avoid running out and buying large quantities of 180 and 200g albums because I had other issues in my life. It helps that we have a few good new and used vinyl outlets in the LA area, too. And I finally got over the "collectible" issue, when one day I woke up and realized that there was little chance I would ever actually sell any of those albums, and eventually some relative would be sitting somewhere sorting through them, wondering "What the hell should I do with these?".

So suddenly what I used to consider a process for playing albums became a ritual, and an enjoyable ritual at that. I have lots of options, I don't have to listen to any particular album on vinyl. But when I do I enjoy it. And for some reason or another, when I get up and grab an album, handling like it is some exquisite, priceless object, carefully cleaning it and then pressing play, it broadcasts a different message throughout the household. It's a rather simple message: Be quiet please, I am going to listen to this album. The cool thing is that the message works. "Why even the cats and that damned parrot......"

[Before I continue I have to say that the quality of vinyl playback is often better, sometimes infinitely better, than digital. So please keep the flying monkeys in their cages.]

The bottom line is that rituals are a good thing, provided you can keep them in the ritual category. And come to think of it, they aren't anal quirks, either, so take that Mrs. bwk.

Now, if I could just do something about my lucky underwear superstition.



I find as I get older..., posted on November 8, 2009 at 20:59:45
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...my rituals and routines are the structure that allows me to appear like I know what I'm doing and keeping it together.

It's scary how much I depend on them. As guys, we all have them.

I probably have more than most.

And when they get interrupted or have to be changed, I find I will struggle and can be in a bad mood all week.

Now that I am operating at about 90% (knock in wood),, posted on November 9, 2009 at 10:49:37
Bruce Kendall
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we'll have to get together, including wives. It sounds like you probably have more rituals than I do. ;~) But seriously, I do need to make it up that way.

Then I need to meet someone who has a great big horn system in their living room, so I can take my wife over to meet them.



Glad to hear you're..., posted on November 9, 2009 at 11:21:20
mkuller
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...at nearly 100%.

Just let me know when you plan to come up.

I've always needed ritual..., posted on November 9, 2009 at 06:35:52
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A bit like Rainman actually. I have to have my wallet and phone in my right pants pocket and my keys in the left, or I feel a mild panic state coming on. I'm absent minded enough that I will melt down if I don't do things in such and such an order as well.

One comforting thing is that I've always been this way and indeed may in fact be getting better as I get older, but the rituals will never leave me.

Cheers

I think our rituals and routines are all about..., posted on November 9, 2009 at 11:20:22
mkuller
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...managing our anxiety.

And some of us have more than others.

For me it's way of doing a lot of the little things so I don't have to think about them.

At least that's my excuse.

The only problem I have with rituals..., posted on November 7, 2009 at 15:27:54
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Is that no one seems interested in making mine a priority.

Jim


I see. I suspect someone in your household, posted on November 9, 2009 at 10:46:26
Bruce Kendall
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views your rituals the same way my wife views mine. Namely, anal quirks. Some people just don't understand.



lucky underwear superstition., posted on November 7, 2009 at 15:19:46
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That's those mountain states calling to you..."Come back into the fold...come back into the fold...come back into the fold..."


There is no such thing as too many records.
There is just too little room for them!


My problem is I require myself to stick to my rituals..., posted on November 7, 2009 at 15:16:59
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And I have many and usually they start first thing in the morning, sometimes before I wake up I'm sure.

Brian

I used to wake up, posted on November 7, 2009 at 15:23:56
Muzikmike
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take care of myself or have someone do it for me, then I'd get up and take care of myself which no one could do for me, then go take care of myself, which most times I took care of myself, then after I was full, I'd go sit down and take care of myself while the television took care of me.

That was my Sunday ritual.

All other days I only ritualized the first part of the first part of the first part of the day. That was pleasant but then I had to go to work.


There is no such thing as too many records.
There is just too little room for them!


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