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What was THAT tone of voice all about?

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Posted on November 5, 2009 at 11:59:45
Bruce Kendall
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 I freely admit that I am suffering from a bad case of cabin fever lately, but Mrs. bwk seems to be suffering from a bad case of "I wish he'd go to work or something" flu.

Yesterday morning I came into the den and started to do some job-related stuff on the computer. As I worked along, I could sense a certain thickness building in the air. I did my best to ignore it and continue doing my work. Finally, I reached a point where I needed to get up and move my legs a little. I swear, as soon as Mrs. bwk heard the sound of the desk chair turning she got a realy wild look in her eyes and made a mad lunge for the computer. I had forgotten that she likes to visit a certain poker site. That site forces people to register and has enabled a chat feature that allows people to talk to each other while playing. Over the years, a core group of regulars formed friendships and they call each other daily. Sometimes they even have get-togethers! Imagine that! All borne from a silly website. In any case, I figured the air would thin out a little if I just let her have the computer for awhile, so I sat down on the couch to catch up on some reading.

Some time went by, and Mrs. bwk asked me a question from the other room. From what I recall, it was a meaningless question. Maybe she asked how much gas was in the car, I don't know. Whatever it was, I answered her and went back to my reading. At least a half an hour went by, and suddenly Mrs. bwk was in the doorway. "What was that tone of voice all about?" What tone of voice? "A few minutes ago I asked you a question and you answered me. Then I said something else and you snapped back in a crappy tone of voice! What's up with that?" I don't remember anything like that happening. What did you ask me? What the heck were we talking about? "I don't know, I can't remember, but I do remember that I didn't like your tone." So let me get this straight. You asked me something and you have no idea what it was. I replied and you have no idea what that was either, and now you are mad about it? "Yes, that's right." HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA! It seems my laughter caused frost to form on the floors and furniture, so that probably wasn't the right thing to do.

Seconds later the phone rang. It was one of the field nurses who are following up on me, and she wanted to come over right away. I'm thinking that having someone else in the house for a few minutes might help cure the frost situation, so I told her to come on over. She did. Sheesh, she must have called me after she was already here. This particular nurse was one of those 4'9" models that weighs in at 250 lbs. No real biggie there, but she also had a big, black something on her nose that kept yelling insults at me, forcing me to stare at it.

I tried really hard to ignore that big thing on her nose, and was actually getting to the point where I had that under control. As she checked my vitals and whatever, she made a small pile of medical waste that she wanted to throw away. The kitchen trash can was in plain sight, so she headed off for it. Somehow or another she managed to knock it down though, and the noise made me turn around to see what was going on. She bent down to pick the trash can up, and it was right then that her stretch pants decided to throw in the towel, falling halfway down her (naked) butt. I had to instantly turn around and put my hand over my mouth and nose to keep from going into some seriously loud laughter, and it was just at that moment that Mrs. bwk came into the room.

Now bear in mind that only a few minutes had passed since I had been laughing at Mrs. bwk, so she naturally(?) assumed I was still laughing at her. Now there was permafrost throughout the house, and it stayed that way for the rest of the day. Here we are, noon the following day and it looks like things are okay again. But I am walking on egg shells.



I'm the luckiest man in the world, posted on November 6, 2009 at 15:10:41
badman
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 Or so my wife keeps telling me.....

Seriously, though, these sorts of bickers are not uncommon, it's largely a runaway feedback loop. You were annoyed to get offline, whether you think you showed it or not. She picked up on this, felt guilty for interrupting your work, but also annoyed with you for making her feel guilty (I know, I know!) and then was spoiling for a fight.

There probably WAS a tone in your voice. That tone is known as "loud" and it gets me in trouble. My own wife is deaf in one ear, and I'll have to repeat things a few times occasionally. When I do so, it gets progressively louder in the interest of being understood....

Then it's "Why are you yelling at me?"

SHEESH!

But, then, I get away with friggin' murder on the speaker front. Many (most) days the place is loaded up with tools everywhere, and not terribly uncommon for me to do (messy) DIY work in front of the tube. Sometimes this leaves sawdust on the ottoman, but I catch VERY little flack.



Bass is supposed to sound big. 6.5" is not a woofer size.


Patricia decide to COOK thursday night, risotto - her that night version, posted on November 6, 2009 at 11:29:56
Timbo in Oz
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 with tinned asparagus all melted through it, it looked awful, but tasted okay and I ate all of it, scraped the plate.

But somehow she knew that my cooking side was not impressed, FFFROSTTTT!

;-)!

It passes.


Warmest

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And gladly would he learn and gladly teach - Chaucer. ;-)!

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I have no idea what you're talking about., posted on November 5, 2009 at 14:51:54
Muzikmike
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 We never raise our voice to one another, we always are spot-on concerning each other's needs, and this is bullshit, isn't it?


There is no such thing as too many records.
There is just too little room for them!
Yup! )MT(, posted on November 6, 2009 at 05:35:51
J. S. Bach
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Dave
Later Gator,

Crank up your talking machine, grab a jar of your favorite "kick-back", sit down, relax, and let the go
Bruce, one question, if I may:, posted on November 5, 2009 at 13:36:48
JimK
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 Are you a man?

Well then, you are WRONG!

End of discussion.

Jim
Thanks for the reminder Jim, posted on November 5, 2009 at 15:35:18
JoshT
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 I was going to comiserate with Bruce, but with that helpful reminder, I feel no need!
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"If you are the owner of a new stereophonic system, this record will play with even more brilliant true-to-life fidelity. In short, you can purchase this record with no fear of its becoming obsolete in the future."
that's why I work 7 days a week. nt, posted on November 5, 2009 at 13:22:12
Prisoners
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Baba-Booey to you all!
Imagine this......, posted on November 5, 2009 at 12:55:52
tbcblues
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 My wife thinks I should be painting the ceiling in the den instead of fiddle-farting around with the latest pair of junky speakers that followed me home.

The absence of "y" chromosomes leads to sometimes rather perverse priorities... :o) nt., posted on November 5, 2009 at 13:05:05
feet's too big
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 NT.

LMAO! Thanks Bill and tbcblues! nt, posted on November 5, 2009 at 15:33:46
JoshT
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"If you are the owner of a new stereophonic system, this record will play with even more brilliant true-to-life fidelity. In short, you can purchase this record with no fear of its becoming obsolete in the future."
RE: What was THAT tone of voice all about?, posted on November 5, 2009 at 12:37:34
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 Bruce, that's why I find it difficult to understand how some couples live together, drive to work together, take breaks together, and totally socialize together. Like they're glued at the hip. There are two couples that have been doing this for years, at my work. Seems like a very unhealthy relationship to me. Everyone needs their own space (and men, their solitude alone in their man caves).

;^)
I've never understood that "joined at the hip" compulsion, either... :o), posted on November 5, 2009 at 13:01:22
feet's too big
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 Since we became "empty nest" parents, even our holidays have had largely separate elements for both myself and the lady wife...

As an example, the lady wife loves visiting stately homes and gardens, sites of historical interest, etc., whilst my main holiday interests may be in sailing small boats, drinking good ales in pleasant out-of-the-way pubs, etc.... :o)

I consequence, an East Coast holiday may involve a communal early breakfast, after which the lady wife visits whatever attractions she desires, during which time my day may involve sailing a small boat to a modestly distant targeted seaside pub location in time for a good pub lunch and a pint or three of good ale before sailing back to the home harbour...

This timescale tends to result in us both "returning to base" in time to share tea, our evening meal, and the evening together when we will both(!) have had an excellent day doing the things we individually enjoy (and feeling no potential guilt whatsoever from dragging a hapless and reluctant partner along for the ride), and where we both actively enjoy each other's company all the more for both of us being in a thoroughly good mood... :o)

As you might gather, the lady wife and I favour much more relaxed arrangements than the "joined at the hip" philosophy you indicated in your comment... :o)


Bill.

RE: I've never understood that "joined at the hip" compulsion, either... :o), posted on November 5, 2009 at 20:01:39
FenderLover
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 Bill, I agree with you. Watching one of the two couples at work, you can see jealousy as a driving force. You can't even talk to one without the other jumping into the conversation. Really, it's an uncomfortable situation, even for co-workers on a very casual basis.

As for my better half... if I had to watch all the crazy reality shows she's so into, I'd go crazy! I may waste my time fiddling with old amplifiers. But, I'm afraid my opinion of time spent watching and getting all involved with those shows is not too good.

Though thankfully there is nil interest in "reality shows",..., posted on November 6, 2009 at 00:41:21
feet's too big
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 as a graduate in Ancient History and a farmer's daughter blood-relative of Sir Albert Howard (one of the most prominent early advocates of "organic" farming), the lady wife has had a lifelong committed enthusiasm for the above and similar topics... :o)

Whilst I have a marginal interest in historical matters and at least do indeed vote with my taste-buds for "organic" produce, I also have a fairly wide range of other keen interests for which the lady wife may similarly have rather marginal comparative enthusiasm... :o)

With that background, we each enjoy the situation where we pursue our own interests without feeling that we are either ourselves being dragged along in someone else's interests or feeling responsible for forcing our partner to be involved in interests and activities that would be rather low down on their personal list of the best ways in which to spend their time... :o)

As such, I fully understand why you may be keenly focused on refitting dated but competently designed amplifiers with prime "NOS" valves/tubes, top quality silver wire, resistors, and capacitors, etc. whilst your lady wife spends time on her own differing interests... :o)




Bill.

I suggest the change in day-to-day routine..., posted on November 5, 2009 at 12:32:31
feet's too big
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 of always speaking to our partners face-to-face, and NEVER EVER from locations where understanding the meaning or motivation of comment may be easily misinterpreted... :o)

I also suggest that purchasing an additional laptop with wireless Internet connectivity would certainly help avoid competing claims over otherwise potentially competitive computing resources... :o)

The above arrangements work very well in our household... :o)




Bill.

Good suggestion..., posted on November 5, 2009 at 14:28:04
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 ...and then instead of talking "in that tone of voice", he could just email her.

Thanks for the chuckle... :o) nt., posted on November 5, 2009 at 14:46:26
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 NT.

RE: What was THAT tone of voice all about?, posted on November 5, 2009 at 12:22:24
revjac
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 I get it - I really do! Know whatcha' talkin' 'bout there Bruceski!

(it's not often long-lived around here but when the frost is on - it be on Big Time!)
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