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In Reply to: Fiance disapproves of my vinyl addition - need help posted by kgturner on October 29, 2004 at 17:26:27:
and here is my take on it.If you start giving into her whims, even trivial ones, she will expect to be able to get her way whenever she wants. It's a control thing. I know, I have been there and done that with my first wife.
At this stage of the game, you are madly in love. If you don't send the TT back, is she going to call off the marriage? Of course not. You need to stand up for what you want, or you will end up a whipped pup, always doing what she wants, so she won't get mad. Trust me, after a few years of this behavior, you will get tired of it and it will become a problem within the marriage. You will be resentful of always having to do what she wants, and when you attempt to make a stand after years of giving into all her wants, she will become very angry. Why? Because you have always given her her way.
It is like a person who enjoys playing golf with his buddies. When a man starts not going because she doesn't want you to, and doesn't go play golf because she wants you to stay home, you are developing her expectations of the relationship for the future. Early in a relationship it can cause some mild disagreements, but she will get over it and it will become a non-issue. But let her have her way for a few years and all hell will break loose when you stand up to playing golf with your friends. It could actually lead to seperation.
I think you should get your turntable, keep it for as long as you want and she will get used to it. It won't become a big deal. She will probably even begin to enjoy it with you.
Don't let her begin to wear the pants. She will respect you more for it in the long run.
My first marriage, based on giving into her wants all the time lasted 3 1/2 years. This marriage I am on now has lasted over 25 years, using the method I have suggested. It's your choice, but heed my words, this is a more important decision than you realize.
Steve
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- Kevin- you are setting a precedence - www.records 19:58:09 10/29/04 (0)
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