In Reply to: RE: Reading some of the advice there is little wonder why they are divorced … posted by RGA on March 1, 2015 at 22:48:33:
While I think each divorce is unique, in my case I found that the lawyers allowed me (and my now ex) to get things drawn up in a way that was final and not really subject to further negotiation down the line. What gets tricky is the splitting of financial assets and debts - and if you have more than a trivial amount of them, a lawyer will allow the split to happen most easily. And if there are kids involved, in my state (NY), you have to go in front of a Judge with the children in a courtroom, who will approve of the custody arrangements. IN my case, no kids, so things were pretty simple and straightforward.My only advice, is treat this as a business arrangement where there is an obligation to split 50-50.
Don't sweat the household stuff - even the stereo. It isn't worth the battle since you will quickly lose the amount you would need to replace the thing if there is a long drawn out court fight.
If you need to value something pick the "average price" from a reputable site, or get a quote to buy it from someone. And be 100% up front about any and all assets. Don't hide anything as that WILL come back and bite you in the a$$. In NY, if your ex finds out about something you have hidden, one court trip and 100% of it goes to the ex that was cheated.
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Edits: 03/02/15
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- Lawyers - Bromo33333 06:41:51 03/02/15 (9)
- Unless it gets too contentious... - mkuller 15:14:47 03/02/15 (7)
- RE: Unless it gets too contentious... - Brian Levy 09:11:11 03/03/15 (0)
- I was all for mediation .... - reelsmith. 16:18:40 03/02/15 (5)
- RE: I was all for mediation .... - RGA 16:35:35 03/02/15 (2)
- RE: I was all for mediation .... - Brian Levy 09:19:35 03/03/15 (1)
- RE: I was all for mediation .... - RGA 19:03:42 03/03/15 (0)
- RE: I was all for mediation .... - mkuller 16:23:16 03/02/15 (1)
- RE: I was all for mediation .... - Brian Levy 09:27:29 03/03/15 (0)
- "obligation to split 50-50" ... - reelsmith. 08:33:49 03/02/15 (0)